It’s true. It may sound a little harsh, especially if you’re in your 20’s. But hear me out: after spending half a decade in our teens learning how to be socially sensitive, we’ve become almost hypersensitive to other’s opinions of us.

Our 20’s are similar to toddlerhood, but in adulthood, It’s a time we learn to walk in our adult feet, figuring out how to navigate in this big social world. In a relatively short time, we must learn how to be financially responsible, adapt to the workplace culture, discover our new role within our family circle, and date responsibly. It’s a hectic time. It is precisely why, contrary to what we may think, people outside of our close circle don’t think about us as much as we believe. Most don’t have the time, the energy, or even the need to do so. They are busy with their own lives.

Here is a little test  for yourself and see if this holds true for you: Think back 1 month ago, aside from people in your close circle, how many times have you thought about people’s appearances, their habits, their beliefs, etc.? Chances are, you didn’t give it much thought. The point is, be gentler on yourself on things that don’t matter much over time. So, wear what you want, fix your hair to match your mood. People don’t think about you as much as you think. And that’s OK.